Psychic mediums can’t summon whatever spirit they choose, so they have no control over who shows up for a reading. So, what does it mean when your loved ones don’t show up? This is one of those situations where there is more than one reason.
If you have never been to a psychic medium before, and you might never go again, spirits only have this single opportunity to communicate to you. Consequently, those in spirit, including your spirit guides, are going to get the most important messages through first.
For example, even though you might want to communicate with your recently deceased mother, it might be more important that your friend comes through to tell you he doesn’t blame you for the car accident that killed him when you were teenagers, even though you were driving. Or it might be more important that your stepfather comes through to request your forgiveness for being abusive. Or it might even be more important that your neighbor’s grandmother comes through asking you to tell her daughter (your neighbor) that her grandmother is alive in spirit.
Not that we have any choice, but we have to trust that spirit knows what’s most imperative. While some people aren’t pleased about paying for a reading where their neighbor, friend or relative gets a message, spirit knows that those people are not ever going to get a reading, so they employ you as their messenger to deliver an important message. Feel good about this opportunity to help another and know that you can always get another reading. What spirit is saying in this situation is that they know that you are strong enough to work through your grief without a message on this particular day, and/or they know that you’ll be back for another reading in the future.
It’s recommend that people get a one-hour reading versus a half-hour reading. Obviously, if you have more time, it’s more likely that you’ll hear from the person that you want, because the most important messages can come first and there’ll still be time for the loved one you’re seeking to come through if he or she didn’t show up immediately.
Spirit communication through a psychic medium is a three-way conversation. All three parties—the sitter, the medium and the spirit—affect the reading. If the sitter (client) or the psychic medium arrive with their energy low, the reading won’t be as good as when everyone’s energy is high.
Be conscious not to negatively affect your energy before a reading with alcohol, drugs, stress, an argument, lack of sleep, too much exercise or too much stuff weighing on your mind. You’re expected to be nervous if this is your first reading, but nervous energy isn’t necessarily low energy unless you try to suppress it with drugs or alcohol. Just allow your nervousness to play out as enthusiasm, and be optimistic and playful during the reading. The spirit-to-medium connection will likely be better as a result.
At the same time, don’t book a reading if your grief is such that you are in a desperate state of mind. Desperation is a lower-energy emotion. If you’re feeling fraught with despair or overly anxious about contacting your departed loved one, it might be best to see a grief counselor first. If your loved ones in spirit don’t think you can manage the messages in a healthy manner, they might choose to not come through anyway.
Having covered all these bases, it’s also true that psychic mediums have bad days, just like the rest of us. They too get stressed, depressed and tired. If the psychic medium was able to get clear messages from one or two relatives but not from the person in spirit whom you wanted, then this is probably not the issue. But if none of the messages seemed accurate, or there were some hits but a lot more misses, it’s possible that the medium was having an off day.
Always keep in mind that regardless of what happens or doesn’t happen at your first reading, there will be future opportunities for other readings. Too many people put so much pressure on the reading as if they’ll never get another chance to connect with their loved ones. First, there will be other chances. It’s merely a matter of priorities. If you want to connect with your loved one in spirit, you’ll have another opportunity. And, second, you are always connected to your loved ones. You don’t need to have a psychic medium present in order to do that. Sometimes you just need to trust in your own ability to recognize the signs that are all around you; that is, you need to be your own medium.
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